I have spent the last 6 years steadily looking for, researching and working on healing my flaws. I guess that is part of the reason we are here, at least that is what some say. But the deeper I get the more questions I have!
Healing is a joiurney for sure. We learn new ways, implement them when we remember to and keep learning and implementing. There are good days and bad days, happy days and sad days, days when the world is a glorious wonder and days when I wonder why I am here at all.
One of the things I have learned to do is dive into the dark places. Life is not always a bowl of cherries, obviously, but denying the sad parts or attempting to skim over them just makes them more prevalent. You really do need to dive in, ride the wave, feel the feels. I once stayed in bed for 3 weeks crying. It was a rough one for sure, but I felt better afterwards and was able to grab myself by the bootstraps and make some monumental changes that shifted my life drastically for the better.
Many of the challenges that we all face are mental. Negative programming can be detrimental and there is one way to fix it. Reprogram your mind. Take on the radical responsibility to needed to take back control of your mind and your life. Only let in what serves your greater good and your new chosen path.
Let me give you an example of how I did this years ago, just after getting out of that 3 week bed cying stint.
I turned off ALL media. Well, all media with words. I only would listen to relaxing classical music. I found that the news, commercials and the song lyrics to be so drearly and depressing I could not listen to them even for a minute. This period of my life lasted 3 years. I didn’t just turn off all media, but I began to seek out and fill my mind with new information on a nearly constant basis. A few of my “mentors” were and still are, Wallace Wattles, Tony Robbins, Mary Morrisey & Kevin Trudeau. I would listen, read and research new thought patterns and ideas with an obsessive attentiveness. So much so that my mind and my thinking began to shift. It is STILL shifting!
Being self reflective is one of the most dificult tasks there is. It requires you to set aside your ego, put down the microscope and pick up the mirror. Diligently use others as a mirror for the things you need to fix inside of yourself. If something about someone is irritating you, chances are that same thing is in fact inside of YOU and trying to get your attention so you can “fix” it!
It certainly is a life challenge, but one I am up for and doing! How about you? Do you accept the challenge to be tenaciously self reflective?